When the community comes together in grief

When the community comforts the bereaved
By Jackie Wesley


Having read the recent newspaper articles about the community’s response to Jessica's death, her viewing and funeral, I am so pleased that we live in a community where the death of a young lady (or any person) affects us in this way. There is no doubt that her parents, siblings and grandparents feel the love and comfort as they grieve Jessica’s death. Even though I didn’t know her I am certain from all I have heard about her that she was a beautiful person.
We at The Compassionate Friends often speak of how we were treated during our child’s funeral and afterwards, and I think most would agree that we had the support of our community behind us. It means so much for us to be able to look back and realize how deeply our children were loved and that they had touched so many lives.
It is important to anyone who has lost a loved one to know that others remember and miss him or her too. We may not always be able to attend the funeral or the visitation, but later when it’s all over a card or a heartfelt letter can be so meaningful to the family. It is never too late to let the bereaved family know we are thinking of them, as their bereavement will go on forever and our thoughtfulness will always be appreciated.
If you know someone who is grieving, contact them, either by phone, card or a visit, even when you think it may be just a little gesture. It can mean so much to the family.
It has been almost 14 years since our daughter Teresa died, but just remembering who came to be with us and to say nice things about her, and those who sent cards, will always give our family comfort. We wish the same for Jessica’s family.